Dating a recovering addict advice what is dating someone
Your probably in for a lot of trouble , history repeats itself, and there's a high fall out rate for drug users that go back into their dreadfull habit, of course she might overcome her problems, but it leads me to think she was rather mentally unstable enough to start with drugs to begin with. Fratenization within 12 step programs/rehab is frowned upon if you both belong to the same group cause the relationship tends to become about a)small group power struggles b)the relationship which if it doesn't work I've seen get quite ugly in these settings and at some point stops being about recovery and starts being about your Ego...Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. The issues are I have three children whose father will find any reason to try and take them away from me so he doesnt have to pay the child support to me! Thanks Falling Hey Mazz I have no experience in these matters but I can point you to ppl who have a better idea than I do....I have communicated my concern with my new friend and he understands!!! I can't give you any better advice than Anna gave the original poster - pls check out our family and friends forums.I'm dating a fellow that I've known for 25 years - but over the course of the past eight years we have had "off/on" relationships - depending upon his ability to stay sober and out of jail.So, for the past nine months things have been going..like you said - almost word for word. " If anyone gives you any solid advice please pass it along to me -- I love him -- but I've been burned before.If he doesn't seem to be pursuing the relationship, but seems hurt if you aren't pursuing it...
I keep fighting the thoughts that maybe he is "just not into me" and cant tell me.
I would also suggest you give Al Anon meetings a try. - Alex Haley I have just meet an awesome man..has been upfront and honest with me and tells me that he has been sober(from cocaine,crack,and heroine) for 2years and 8 mnths..he just got out of prison 2 months ago!
They will likely be able to answer some of your questions and give you support. __________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. I know this is alot to take in but my heart is telling me to give him a chance.
Can anyone maybe help me understand him a little better? And I dont know what the future is holding in store I dont know where Im going, Im not sure where I've been There's a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I dont need to see the end. AA emphasizes no relationships or major decisions for a year.
He tells me that if he leaps too fast he might relapse. (I read books and attend meeting in an attempt to understand what support he needs, but I never get much information on relationships.) Hi Kris, Welcome! You might want to check out the Friends and Family Forum on this board. I say hogwash to this, but a lot of people follow it.